The scriptures say the we love Him because He first loved us. (1 John 4:19). Love is in-ate in us when the Holy Spirit takes up residence in our spirit. Before we find Him, love in the flesh is often conditional and self-centered. We love because someone loves us. We give because it benefits my relationship to do so. God’s love is unconditional and is given when it is not earned. In fact, sacrificial love is the central idea behind agape love. John 15:13 is the perfect definition behind this kind of love.
“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.”
The greatest form of love is a self-sacrificial love the one has for another where a life is given when nothing is expected in return. The Greek word for this kind of love is called Agape. I’ve studied the Greek terms for love, especially the word agapē which is supposed to be the highest expression of love - a pure, selfless, unconditional thing. Agape love is love at the highest level. It's so much more than we could ever dream or imagine. When we fully understand and grasp what agape love means for us, it will transform how we view ourselves and ultimately, how we view ourselves. It is used over 106 time in the New Testament.
The following story of an American Icon symbolizes this, Alfred Vanderbilt.*
Alfred Gwynne Vanderbilt
When disaster strikes, men and women are capable of moments of pure heroism. Sadly, all too often, such acts are largely forgotten to history. Unless that is, you are no ordinary person. If, say, you are one of the world’s richest men – and a globe-trotting playboy to boot – then your act of sacrifice certainly will be noted, and celebrated, for posterity. This is certainly true for Alfred Gwynne Vanderbilt, who is remembered not just for his wealth but for the fact he gave his life so others may live.
To say Vanderbilt was born into privilege is something of an understatement. His great-grandfather, Cornelius Vanderbilt, left school at the age of 11 and then went on to make a fortune in shipping and railroads. Cornelius left the equivalent of $150 billion in today’s money to his son, who then doubled the family fortune. So, when Alfred inherited the family fortune, he had big shoes to fill. And fill them he did. For, while he may well have scandalized polite society with his partying and womanizing ways, he was also an astute investor, putting his money in real estate and, to a much lesser extent, horses.
It was for the latter that Vanderbilt set off from New York aboard the Lusitania in May 1915. He was planning on attending a meeting of the International Horse Breeders’ Association in Britain. Even though the waters of the Atlantic were teeming with German U-boats, most passengers on the huge vessel assumed that, since they were on a non-military ship, they would be safe. How wrong they were. On the morning of 7 May, the Lusitania was attacked off the coast of County Cork, Ireland. It soon became clear that it was going down.
Vanderbilt was, as a First Class passenger, given a lifejacket. He gave it away. Then, as the ship started to sink, he concerned himself with making sure as many children as possible got into the lifeboats. Given his status – and given what had happened on the Titanic – he could have easily got a spot on a lifeboat himself and saved his own skin. However, he was still trying to save others when the boat went under the waves. Vanderbilt’s body was never found. A reporter in the New York Times noted that he displayed “gallantry which no words of mine can describe”.
Sacrificial love is the same kind of love that causes a soldier to throw himself on a live grenade to save the rest of his platoon. It’s the same when first responders put themselves at risk running into a burning house or collapsing building to save people they don’t even know. This is the kind of love we’re supposed to have for one another. Christ was the supreme example of.
Agape love is a love that supposed to set the church far above the world yet so seldom does. Instead, the church is often a place that is divided by personal and theological difference which lead to cliques and insecurities which cause people to draw others to themselves.
This Christmas, buy a gift for someone who cannot do anything if return for you. When you do, remember Chris’s love for you. When you could do nothing in return, Christ freely gave His life for you. His is the deepest kind of love .
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